Monday, July 31, 2006

We Are Family

The weekend flew too quickly... but I had fun, loads of it, even if I am still feeling somewhat knackered and been nursing a headache since Yesterday.

My mates and I Finally left office at 6.30 pm on Friday evening and reached Genting an hour later. After freshening up and prayers, we went for dinner. Turned out we had to wait for other friends to join us for dinner so was left feeling hungry, correction, make that very hungry, a bit longer. Had a good time chatting, laughing, catching up etc so it all turned out quite well. This may well be our last Staff Day together as some of the Departments [mine included] will be undergoing a major restructuring very soon. It's Sometimes kind of scary to think of the unknown future - the new department structure, new boss, new portfolio, new colleagues etc etc but at least it's a good opportunity to learn something new. Anyway, I digress.

We retired quite early but my roommate and I spent some time chatting, well into 1 am! Then as I was about to drift to sleep, I heard the noise of people checking in next door! The noise kept me up for quite a bit more.

It was a bright and sunny start to Saturday. After breakfast, we had a team-building activity after lunch [this is like a 'by default' activity, almost every place will offer this now!] but it turned out to be quite fun. We were all divided into four groups and for ease of recognition, each group had agreed for its members to wear a certain colour. My group chose White [the others chose Black, Red and Orange] but I had already packed my turquoise footie jersey and wasn't about to buy a new tee... so I decided to stick to it. The others were teasing me and called me confused. Yes, that's me, confusing and confused! Our group was feeling somewhat dejected after the team-building activity as we thought we didn't do as well as the others.

I was famished by the time we finished and was glad that lunch was next.

It rained shortly after lunch, oh uh. And the activity after lunch was treasure hunt a la The Amazing Race, on the way up to Genting and at both the indoor and outdoor parks. As our group had two cars [one a four-door, the other a two-door] among us, five of us went in the four-door car and the four others went into the two-door. We were so getting soaked, running here, there and everywhere in the spitting Rain. My friend said all that running around was a good way to lose weight. My panted reply was, 'But I don't wanna lose weight!'. Anyway, guess what, our group got 2nd place, both for the team-building activity and treasure hunt and hence, 2nd overall winner! We were pleasantly surprised with this since we thought we were last and were so happy that we were shouting and jumping as if we had won the first place. Yes, it really felt good. And yes, We Are Family! [Because when you think about it, your officemates are like your second family - like it or not - and you do spend the bulk of your waking hours in The Office].

It was getting late when we finished and the rain was still continuing steadily plus I needed a lift home so we left shortly after the prize-giving. Reached current residence just after 8 pm.

My parents came later that night, after 9 pm with my two nieces and nephew. Apparently, the kiddies missed me and persuaded my parents to drive them over. Heh, so cute and sweet. I miss them too. But I was so knackered then. Good thing they were too! Even if I'm still single and childless, I'm thankful that I have my nieces and nephew who clearly love me, and me them. After all, We Are Family!

Yesterday, after my parents left with the grandkids, I cleaned the house quickly before going out to meet my friend, Ja. We then drove to KLCC and met our Japanese friend, Yuriko-san, and mother. We played tourist guides and took them around KLCC before bringing them over to the Craft Complex at Conlay and then to the Central Market. It was drizzling Yesterday too and I was nursing a headache almost the whole day. At one point, I was yawning non-stop - there's only so much cultural and traditional stuff I could take and I was really starting to feel out of place at the Craft Complex [gosh, I am so not culturally or traditionally inclined! Fie on me!] and was groaning inwardly at the prospect of going to the Central Market. Anyway, this super-efficient shopper managed to grab a pair of wedges on offer at KLCC amidst her liaison officer duty. Heh. And I was rewarded with the sight of a cute eye-candy at the Craft Complex so that kind of made the visit a bit more worthwhile.

Ja told our guests that she could drive but didn't know the way around KL and that I couldn't drive but knew the way. Talk about complementing each other eh! I could show them the places and the way alright but I discovered that I'm quite lousy at providing explanation on just about anything, e.g. what ingredients there are in the Malay kuih; what songket, batik, kompang are etc. And I couldn't play congkak [traditional game played by two people, can't describe how it's played 'cause like I said, I'm no pro!] to save my life but we gave some demo. Oh dear. I didn't have this problem playing tourist guide before when my Brit friends came, 'cause they were guys and they just wanted to shop for clothes, PC stuff etc.

Anyway, would you believe it, we were mistaken as a family of Japanese, not once but twice! Before I started donning the headscarf, I was Always Always mistaken as a Chinese, by both Chinese and Malays, and there was even a time when we returned from our family trip to Los Angeles when a fellow passenger asked me:

She: Excuse me, are you Chinese?

Me: No. [I was feeling a wee bit under the weather then, hence the monosyllabic reply].

She: Oh, are you Japanese then?

Me: (Japanese?!!) No. I'm a Malaysian [I didn't feel the need to elaborate on my ethnicity].

She: [Not Sure how to react] Oh... [sounded strangely disappointed].

Me: (Oh goody, that's shut her up. Now can I have my rest, please?).

And on the same flight, the stewardess wanted to serve me some wine too! Hello... even if I didn't look like how I'm supposed to look, surely I looked underage to be served alcohol!

After donning the headscarf, it's mainly foreigners who mistake me as a Chinese and there was once in Nottingham when someone yelled a racist remark at me.

Now, Yuriko is bigger than her mother, just like I am bigger than Mummy. The second time we got asked if We Are Family, the shopkeeper even went on to ask - twice - if I was Ja's daughter...! [It so happened that Ja is smaller than me too]. If you were Ja, surely it wouldn't be flattering to be asked such a question but she took it in her stride [if it were me, I'd be punching the shopkeeper already]. I would be lying though if I said my ego wasn't boosted with that question, surely yours would too if people say you look younger than your age. But while I don't mind being mistaken as a younger person, I don't really want to look [and be treated] like a child! Anyway, I digress. Btw, Ja also wears the headscarf. But she does look Japanese. So maybe yes, We Are Family!

Thursday, July 27, 2006

Theories Theorised

During lunch today, my friend and I had an interesting discussion ranging from religion to relationship. I asked for his honest-to-goodness feedback on how he thinks I can improve myself, what he thinks I'm lacking etc. It was, like I said, interesting and engaging. He even told me about the Theory of the Second Best; now this is an economics theory. I can so see that it can be applied to even relationships! In short, apparently I have to reduce my optimality conditions (expectations) until an economic model of the next best solution can be satisfied. This means that in an economy (relationship) with some unavoidable market failure (relationship failure), it may be necessary for the government (matchmaker) to interfere.

If I understand it correctly, optimality conditions can be depicted by way of graphs, two dimensional, three-D, four-D and so on, depending on the number of conditions. So the formula for DreamGuy (G) = a + bW + cX + dY + eZ [for simplicity, let's assume I have four optimality conditions based on the four criteria]. W = wealth, X = family status/rank, academic qualification, Y = looks and Z = religion. And 'a' stands for all other little optimality conditions rolled together.

OK, my friend did mention that ideally dG/dW = O, dG/dX = 0 etc, but this is too technical already, so let's just leave it there, shall we.

Hmmm...whaddya think?

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My tomorrow is full of meeting, meetings, and more meetings!!! It's like the whole of tomorrow is full of meetings! It's like I have to be punished before I can enjoy the weekend...!!! Hmmm, interesting theory.

Our office staff day is this Saturday. InsyaAllah will be going there after work tomorrow. A series of activities [team building and also treasure hunt] are planned for us. Somehow I think the treasure hunt will be more like The Amazing Race than the usual treasure hunt. And I'm sooo not fit!

Meeting my visiting Japanese friend [and her mum] on Sunday. They're holidaying here for about a week. Busy weekend ahead but I think I'll enjoy it. Must stay and keep busy to keep my mind off unpleasant thoughts!

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I miss my girlfriend, C. She just delivered her second prince on Saturday, 22 July 2006 [another Cancerian, yeay!] so that means I won't be able to talk to her until end-September at least. Otherwise, we occasionally call each other at the office and yak [I don't like calling people at home when they're busy with their families]. My last call to her was on Monday when she was about to check out from the hospital sans baby who has been detected as having G6PD. The last bit of our conversation went like this:

She: You know, when I think about you, I think this: it's funny that you don't like people who like you and you go for people who will likely hurt you.

Me: (speechless) Errrr... (darn, she seems to have a point)

Hmmm... I have the next two months if I want to prove her theory wrong!

Wednesday, July 26, 2006

The Great Pretender

I don't and won't pretend to be someone I'm not. I am not yet willing to compromise my personality just to suit someone’s idea of how a perfect lady [or rather, his definition of one] should be and behave. 'Cause I'm not that type. Work-wise, I don't kiss ass 'cause I don't believe in that. But you know what? I just realised that I'm a good actress. So good I can be The Great Pretender.

My date said I didn't look at all nervous last Tuesday (in fact, he thought I was a pro. If only he knew...!). Score for Adek! I really should have considered acting as a profession instead since I'm apparently good at it, since I can apparently successfully mask my nervousness. Pray, tell me, if I wasn't nervous, would I have placed that call to England to seek reassuring, comforting words from my friend? And just so that you know, I don't go around dating Strangers In The Night or, for that matter, at any time of the day.

And yes, the more I think about it, the more convinced I am that I'm really good at being The Great Pretender. I'm so good that I can mask my anguish, grief, sadness from the world. I'm so good I can put up a cheerful front at the office at times when at times All I Wanna Do is just rush home and cry my heart out, bawl my eyes silly, and cry myself to sleep. Yet more Tears On My Pillow.

And they say...
She's so lucky, she's a star
But she cry, cry, cries in her lonely heart, thinking
If there's nothin' missing in my life
Then why do these tears come at night?

I'm so good that even when I get new work in my tray at 6 pm, I grit my teeth, do some quick research before discussing it with my boss within 10 minutes, when I just feel like shouting, stop it, stop dumping more work into my tray/inbox! And with new tasks, I set about wondering how much Higher I have to Jump and how much further I have to run and fly.

I'm so good that I pretend to be disinterested with the male population so much so that people think I'm stuck up, that I couldn't care less. 'Cause I can act aloof, uninterested, unapproachable and I-don't-care realll good. The truth is, Sometimes, I can't help wondering what is it about me that is so off-putting to them. And you know what, there are people who are quick to dismiss or label singletons like me as choosy just 'cause we have yet to walk down the aisle. Well, we have the right to choose men based on the four criteria laid down [wealth, family status/rank, beauty/good looks and religion - but marry one who is religious and you will succeed]. I shall so be guided and I shall so choose for I have the right to choose. Is it wrong to be choosy? Surely you choose what you want to purchase carefully before paying for them; what more a potential life partner! And why do I have to lower my standards? Why do I have to stoop and lower my expectation? Well, I refuse to. And I don't want to and won't settle down for someone just 'cause I have to or ought to, just 'cause society expects me to or 'cause it's the right or proper thing to do, but because I want to. For the right reasons. And yes, I am very well aware of my biological clock ticking away, Thank You very much.

And just so that you know, I must continue on this pretence, this charade, this scene, because I must protect this little heart of mine from being shattered yet again. From being hurt again. Because I can't let my heart break anymore (does anyone know how to Unbreak My Heart?), I can't deal with heartache anymore so, please, just Quit Playing Games (With My Heart). And despite the times, the pain is still great each time. I suppose I'll Always be a novice when it comes to dealing with and healing my heart.

So I will have to go on pretending. Because that's all I think I'll ever be: wrong girl, wrong place, wrong situation, wrong time. Meets wrong boy(s) for wrong reasons. And just when she thinks she's met the right guy, the guy doesn't think so, and so he turns out to be the wrong guy after all or that she's the wrong girl for him. Maybe it's just that... I'm all wrong. But hey, I'm a good actress (and I will get better as I continue) and I shall go on. Because I've managed it so far and there's no reason why I can't continue this. And life goes on...

Monday, July 24, 2006

Slumber Party Weekend

Had a well-deserved, relaxing weekend. Left right after office on Friday and headed for Isetan. Hadn't left that early in ages. Had a fun time browsing and window-Shopping. You'll be glad to know that I exercised restraint and didn't run amok with my credit card!

After labouring over the weekly domestic house-cleaning chore early Saturday morning, I went to the this centre in Lot 10, where again I partook in a decidedly violent scene, where despite going there to seek treatment, I was tortured instead... yup, it's my massage appointment I am talking about. Trust me, at times I felt like I was in Fight Club. This time, I had my body slathered with scrub before I was told to go in for a steam bath.

I hated it. It was like being in a sauna, I think. I was getting hot and bothered and my body felt like it was on fire. If you were there, you'd probably be singing this in your head too like I was: I want to run, I want to hide, I want to tear down the walls, That hold me inside... But I held on with all the Steam engulfing and enveloping me. Until I could stand it no longer and walked out, demanding to know how much longer I had to be in that. One of the therapists said I could leave the room if I wanted so I did exactly that. I have always preferred cold over hot. The promised full body massage followed after showering myself off the scrub. The masseuse had warmed up (pun intended) to me by now - or is it the other way around? - and we chatted a bit. She even tried to talk me into trying out other packages the centre (hereafter to be referred to as the Torture Chamber) has to offer. I just listened without committing myself.

When it was done, I left quickly for my next date, with a girlfriend and the celluloid world...yes, with Johnny himself. When I called the line to book the tickets, the recorded voice went this way, '2 tickets for the Pirates of the Carribean 2, at 2.20 pm on 22 July 2006...'. In the words of Captain Jack Sparrow, 'Savvy!'. A fun time was had by both of us.

My friend came over to spend Saturday Night, a la slumber party. We spent the night [well into 1 am!] and Sunday morning chatting, catching up, giggling. Our conversations were occasionally punctuated by the sound of illegal motorbike race and even a chopper which sounded like it was directly above our heads! It sounded like there were aliens about to land and conquer the world and the bikers speeding away to safety.

I was a good girl during the weekend, didn't spend at all apart from lunch and bottles of fruit juice on Saturday and though I was tempted to go to Lot 10 Yesterday (yes, again. Didn't quite manage to do anything there on Saturday), I decided to do my ironing and washing instead [moan moan groan groan] and finish reading my National Geographics magazine. Am I proud of myself for being able to resist the Temptation and for not spending!

Friday, July 21, 2006

The Blind Date

There's this chap who asked my friend if he should meet up with me when he's back for his short summer holidays. And my friend, being the Angel she is, encouraged him to.

It would prove to be a delicate situation for we do not know each other. I have heard of him, and apart from what little my friend has told me about him, I know absolutely nothing. But I believe he knew even less of me, I doubt he even knows my real name!

He initiated the first email and we've been exchanging emails, not as regularly as I would have liked but I'm happy that we're at least communicating now. And just as I thought that was all there is to it, he suggested meeting up after work on Tuesday. Gosh, it's been a while since I last went on a date so I was naturally apprehensive.


Throughout last weekend, truly vain me was thinking of what clothes and which footwear to wear, which bag to tote etc etc etc. Hey, I always make an effort to look nice to work so I must be more or equally Dressed For Success on a blind date OK!

Now, I had been on one blind date previously and I was chaperoned by my friend and her cousins. I found myself enjoying the conversations with my friend's cousin rather than the bloke! That didn't work out obviously and I hadn't been on any more blind dates since.

I tried asking my friends to accompany me but as it was a working day, it proved to be difficult so I texted him saying that I'd be coming All By Myself. So barely an hour after reaching residence from my Kuching trip, I was out again. In my anxious state, I started calling my friends - one didn't answer, one did and provided the advice I was seeking - and Mummy too. Then I Finally hailed a cab [missed the bus, what a bad start when I wanted to be early] and called up my friend away in good ol' England knowing I could count on being comforted and reassured. I was also told to calm down, Pray that all go well and to remember that even if it doesn't work out, well, at least I've taken the chance and gained a friend in the process. So many butterflies in my tummy! Yikes, getting this nervous before meeting a blind date at this age. Am I simply such a slooowww bloomer or what.

First I was afraid, I was petrified and Boy, was I petrified, terrified and nervous as hell. If you sighted a pale, nervous-looking girl who looked like she was quaking from head to toe and walking extra fast in KLCC on Tuesday, chances are it was me [my friends say I walk fast anyway]. At first I was too nervous to walk around and had to make a pitstop at the washroom before collapsing onto a bench and texting him to say I'd arrived. But I still couldn't Relax and it wasn't long before I decided I should walk around to soothe my fraying nerves. So I walked briskly in and out Isetan and the lovely Lovely Lace [love the shop, the display, the scent etc and the sweet scent sure helped]. Then The Call came. He had arrived and was at the Concourse floor, '...near Nando's'. I said OK, I'd go down and meet him. As I descended down the escalators, I thought, there goes my advantage of element of surprise. See, I wanted to have the upper hand, the advantage of seeing him first, so to speak.

I never realised before that it was only a short hop, skip and jump to Nando's from Isetan. My heart was going thump thump thump so loudly, I feared anyone within hearing distance may think there was a bomb ticking away. Then as I neared Nando's, I got his text: 'Pink shirt. striped tie. That's me!' Only then did it dawn on me that I wouldn't be able to recognise him otherwise. Heh, I can be so slow at times.

I quickly stepped into Famous Amos, oblivious to other cookie monsters, I mean cookie-mad(sniffing) customers, and texted him back (while inhaling the tempting aroma of choc chip cookies myself, that helped too!): 'Shd b there shortly. R u in there or o/side? Nervous-look/g girl, that's me!'. I waited for the text to be delivered and moved out to the luggage store next door, looking at the window display. I noticed there was a new collection of luggage goods under the Sammies line [trust a shopaholic to notice these things even when distracted!] but that was about it. Any onlooker would see a girl looking hard at the window display and thinking she was either admiring or trying to decide whether to purchase or not, but I was hardly concentrating on the display. I wanted to run away; I wanted to stay rooted at the spot; I wanted to meet him and get the nervous feeling out of my system. It was barely a minute later but it felt longer than that and I decided OK, let's get on with it Adek. I couldn't go on standing there seemingly admiring and engrossed with the window display but with a mind thousands of miles away, 'til the cows and birds go home, the shops close down, the weather changes, the season changes, the leaves turn colour and fall off from trees, the birds start migrating south, the North Pole creatures start hibernating... so I shook myself out of my reverie, turned around and walked the even shorter distance to Nando's.

Just as I was about to pass Famous Amos [again], I caught sight of a chap standing there, and checking his cell phone. In a short-sleeved white shirt with small Pink boxes [sorry, I don't know enough about men's clothes to be able to describe it] and a striped tie (and me in my casual outfit which I decided at the eleventh hour, Boy, did I feel under-dressed!). I almost did a double take and stopped in my tracks. I peered at him again and somehow managed to summon enough courage to ask, 'Excuse me, are you DoctorJones?'. And, yes, it was him.

The meeting turned out quite well and gradually I found myself relaxing. I had somehow managed to impress on him via emails that I'm a Shopping Queen (oh dearie me) and after the walk in the park, he good-naturedly accompanied me around Isetan (in exchange for showing him around the park and the room at Mandarin, following me all around Isetan seemed only fair trade)... then we had dinner. And he was kind and considerate enough to offer to take me home. So all in all, it turned out pretty well, at least I like to think it had. And I behaved well too (I normally misbehave of course but I was incredibly good!). Not just my hands, even my tummy decided to behave itself, despite not having a proper meal all day prior to the meeting and not decided to go rumble rumble Let's Get Ready To Rumble.

Sorry, details of action will not be disclosed here, they are only privy to me and him.

Alas, I won't be meeting him anymore for he's flying back to Europe on Saturday. Just My Luck, eh.

I doubt I'll go out on any more blind dates after this. It's Bad for my nervous system! And it just dawned on me that he may have been at Famous Amos when I stepped in there engrossed in my cell phone. Arghhh!!!

And oh yea... Pink it's my new obsession, Pink it's not even a question...

Thursday, July 20, 2006

The Cat City Weekend

Went back to HQ last Friday evening after spending 12 solid hours in the office. It's scary how hard I can work and at the end of that long day, I was amazed that I could still summon and stimulate my brain cells to think instead of them rotting, decaying and dying. When I was growing up and in one of those bored-of-studying states, I couldn't wait to serve my contract [my job was as good as guaranteed, syukur] before eventually finding a good husband and having a pair of adorable, well-behaved children... and I hoped, I'd be able to quit my job and work on my own or be a lady of leisure. How naive I was (and I guess will Always be)! As it is, I only have one of the above at the moment and I'm beginning to think I'm just working for the money. For I have to earn my keep to support myself ['cause I have to, 'cause no one else is going to support me, 'cause I have to take care of myself]. I just wish earning a halal rezeki is much easier.
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As a belated birthday treat to myself, I went for a facial on Saturday. I wanted to get a haircut but the place I frequent was full and I was told to return in the afternoon. Bought a couple of novels too. Spent the rest of the day resting. I'm still having [at least 'til Yesterday] post-World Cup side effects where I suddenly get up for no reason at 2/3 am and it's beginning to get exhausting. Never had this happened before, not during those previous Euro and World Cup tourneys.
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A few months earlier, I bought a return AirAsia ticket to Kuching as yet another birthday treat to myself (oh yes, I have a few of those, 'cause I love to pamper and spoil myself!). Also bought a return ticket for Mummy. We left Sunday morning for the LCCT for our maiden flight aboard the low cost carrier. I was pleasantly surprised when the plane took off on time [and also on our return leg!] after all the stories I heard about AirAsia not having a good record for on-time departure and arrival. We took off in what appeared to be a new Airbus. I was suitably impressed and am now ready to convert from the national carrier to this one! Mind you, I had taken budget flights in Europe before and had no qualms about them. My initial reservation on AirAsia was its poor on-time flights. Once, as I was boarding a 10 am flight to KT, I overhead an announcement for an AirAsia flight being delayed to 4 pm that afternoon!

Landed in Kuching at 1.35 pm and after colecting our luggage, we cabbed it to the Crowne Plaza Riverside. After freshening up and prayers, we went out. Mummy already had plans and knew exactly what she would get (I was staring at Mummy in disbelief and gaping when she asked the check-in counter girl whether she could check in tikar Sarawak [hand-woven mats] on her return flight). I wasn't planning on spending much; after all we were last in Kuching in February 2004 [and Abah and Mummy had bought those mats during our previous visit!!!]. Good thing I brought my novel 'cause Shopping with Mummy can be, well, dragging. Finally, I injected some enthusiasm and helped her make up her mind with her purchase [or else we'd risk being at the Main Bazaar til the shops close for the day and the cows go home]. After dinner, we went back to the hotel.
On Monday, I reluctantly accompanied her to find her desired ikan terubuk masin [the local delicacy of salted fish]; she had asked the hotel staff where she could get the best ones and most everyone advised that Satok is the place. So there we were, hopping onto an illegal taxi-van and then taking the local bus to Satok. After that, because she wanted to buy the famous Sarawak layered cake [kuih lapis Sarawak], we walked the whole length of Jalan Satok to find the shop [I believe the name is Mariam Cake House]. It was, thankfully, not too scorching a morning but still humid nevertheless. I threatened that I'd turn around regardless if we couldn't find the shop and good thing we did. The air-cond interior was a welcome relief! And my, the cakes don't come cheap. We then returned to the hotel to rest and ventured out again for lunch and another browse of the Main Bazaar.
We returned to KL on Tuesday and after a series of limo ride, Boeing 737-300 plane ride and coach ride to KL Sentral - and lugging our heavy bags across to the taxi counter - I Finally reached my current residence at 4 pm.
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Was back at work Yesterday and had a headache almost immediately after stepping into The Office. Was nursing it the whole day and couldn't wait until I could get back for a lie-down.

Friday, July 14, 2006

Angels and Demons

It's been another one of those weeks. I was late on Wednesday, second time this month. Thanks to the month-long of waking up for footie matches, I woke up suddenly at 4 am. And I couldn't for the life of me get sleep to overtake me. So, Finally I got up, turned on the light and read Dan Brown's Angels and Demons that I borrowed from my mate. And you'd think since I got up so early I'd be early to work. But no. Missed the bus and waited ages for the next one. Tried to hail cabs but none stopped by. What a bruise to my ego! I couldn't even hail a cab successfully!

I was in one of my moods so I went out during lunch to clear my mind. Didn't help any, I got bored soon enough and left the store for another. That's when I sighted a tee at this apparel store with these wordings: You have to kiss many frogs before you get the prince. I thought, Oh Boy, how true.

Questions: Have I been kissing any frogs so far? Will I ever find the prince? If yes, how do I know he's the prince and not the frog? How much longer do I have to kiss frogs?

My boss asked me to join her in meeting later that afternoon. Bladder-weak me was about to go to the bathroom but thought, heck, it may be only 10 minutes tops. And I couldn't let my boss wait now, could I. But Boy, was I wrong about it being a sweet, short discussion. What a fix I let myself into! After 15 minutes, I could neither concentrate fully nor contribute effectively. How could I when all the while, I was like urging them to come on come on, can I go now, please. I was crossing my legs and re-crossing them. And moment of relief only came abt an hour later...! Oh Boy.

I couldn't wait til the time came for me to ask my mate, 'So shall we go for that ride into the sunset now?'.

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I was in discussion with my colleague Yesterday and because I didn't want to be disturbed, I took my office phone off from its hook. And lo and behold, suddenly my cell phone rang. It was my ex-school mate. We exchanged the usual how are yous. Now, I haven't heard from her in ages and certainly didn't appreciate it when she started probing into my life. On my marital status. On what I've been doing to change it. I listened in growing horror, dismay and dread as she started detailing all that she had done, all the tribulations that she had endured before she met her man, the Umrah trip, the prayers she made there etc etc etc. And she knew very well that I've been to the Holy Land too but still needed to ask as if to confirm. After a while, I attempted to silence her up and said, 'Yeah, well, I did Pray when I was there too,' but she continued as if she didn't hear me at all.

Then she started asking whether I was still staying with my parents. When I said no, she started asking where I was staying, when I was planning to invite her over etc etc. When I told her about my neighbourhood, she got very interested and pressed me a few times on the market value of properties in that area. I was ready to shout at her and slam the phone down but I didn't. Instead I said I didn't know, because the truth was, I really didn't know and I really didn't care.

When the painful conversation was Finally over, I wailed, 'I hate it, I hate it, I hate it, I hate it when people make these calls and try to make me feel Bad,' not realising I've moaned them out loud. My colleagues turned and asked me what the matter was and I repeated myself. Gosh, I really hate it when people think they have a right to tell you what you should do with your life; pretend to sympathise with what you're apparently lacking (excuse me, but I don't think I'm lacking or any less a girl just because I'm still single); I hate it when people try to make me feel inadequate; I hate it when people I've not spoken to in months think they have a right to preach and push forward their suggested ideas to me on how I could make it work [OK, I'm happy you've found your man - and I suppose happiness - but really, happiness is not dependent on another person! And just because it worked out successfully on you doesn't mean it'd work on another]; and I especially hate the insinuation that when I was at the Holy Land, I didn't make full use of my time there and Pray to God. Not that I have to explain myself to anyone, but I did Pray of course and not just for myself and not only on my marital status.

And I hate it when people start asking me money or money-related questions. That is just plain rude. Uncouth. Unrefined.

It's really 'amazing' (for lack of a better word) how much a phone call can make me feel so angry and riled. And I was. Incensed. Hopping mad. Enraged.

How dare she tried to make me feel inadequate? If she was tring to make me feel miserable, I'm sorry she hadn't succeeded. If anyone cares for me, then he/she should be making prayers for me for my happiness instead of giving me his/her proven success story. Well, I'm happy it worked out fine for you. Just don't push it into my face 'cause I sure as hell don't appreciate it. And no, I hardly envy you. You've only managed to make me angry because you have no right to force your thinking and meddle with my life and part with your ideas.

Do you now wonder why I just don't call certain people and not miss them? And why I don't invite them over or ask to meet up?

Thank God it's Friday today and weekend is starting soon. It couldn't come soon enough for me. A lot more demons than Angels in my life this week.

Monday, July 10, 2006

The Final Match Weekend

I couldn't wait for the weekend to start. Work somehow still chose to arrive in my tray on Friday morning. Had a lovely Friday lunch after navigating the Crazy KL traffic with a few of my closest mates. Had the following conversation with my mate just before leaving:

He: You know, I asked TheBoss who he's supporting on Sunday.

Me: And...?

He: He's actually going for Italy. [shook head in disbelief]

Me: What's wrong with Italy? I'm going to support them.

He: [Looked at me in mock horror, shook his head, proceeded to say something but only managed a...] Huh?!

I soon discovered that a lot of people were actually supporting France and hoping Les Blues would lift up the Cup. I suspect the reason for the support was mainly 'cause it was Zidane's last game. But... may the best team wins. And why do people have an issue with how Azzurri play? That's how they have been playing all along all this while from as far as I can remember and there have been criticisms but you should have expected/seen it coming. It seemed they can't do anything right: when they start playing attacking footie, people commented on this rare display. When they play defensively, they get criticised. There's no pleasing people. And for what it's worth, they've lifted the Cup more times than France.

The usual tackling of domestic chores was done early Saturday morning and as a reward, I went out to KLCC area. Managed to grab a pair of shoes at a sale but after traipsing around KLCC, I soon got tired of the crowd and couldn't wait to leave. Fell into an exhausted afternoon nap before waking up to tackle ironing [I hate this chore the most]. Set my alarm for the Portugal-Germany match early Sunday morning and although I did wake up, I didn't quite manage to drag myself out of my bed until almost 6 am. Oh dear!

Was determined that I would not step out on Sunday and spend the day indoors. For once. Caught the Portugal-Germany match repeat and then the CSI marathon alternating between reading my novel. I have Always suspected I can be quite a slob and true enough, there I was on the couch, either sitting up or lying down. Munching, nibbling, chewing food. I don't think I can quite work from home should they ever decide to implement this.

After that long date with the idiot box, I decided to nap as I planned to get up for the Italy-France match. Was in the kitchen cooking dinner (or at least attempting to) when my mate rang and said she wanted to take me out to dinner. Suggested she came over instead and we spent the next three hours chatting and catching up.

Woke up this morning and by the time I turned the tube on, I discovered to my dismay that France had led by a penalty goal. Soon enough, Materazzi equalised with a header from a corner kick. I was hoping the match would end and not drag on to extra time or penalty but as we all know, that was not to be. While it's good news for those in the stadium [pardon me for saying this, but it's like a Value For Money kind of situation; you pay to watch a 90-minute match and you get a 120-minute match and penalties! What a bargain!], it's not so good news for those several time zones ahead! I was telling myself that the vigil had better be worth it.

It was sad to witness Zidane, the Zizou who has three World Player of the Year awards, ending his career with that kind of dismissal - surely no professional sportsman would want to end his career that way, legend or not - but seriously, it was a gesture totally unbecoming, uncharateristic, uncalled for, stupid even, of Zidane. And apparently, that was not his first headbutting incident. He was also banned for two matches in the 1998 World Cup for stamping on a Saudi skipper.

And then the penalty.... Italy had never had luck in penalty shoot-outs as evidenced by their previous failures in 1990, 1994 and 1998 but they refused to let those previous nightmares to continue haunting them and set aside their domestic problems and went on to triumphantly lift the Cup for the 4th time. VIVA ITALIA!!!

And what other better way to cap the weekend than the sweet news of FedEx overcoming Nadal at Wimbledon.

Friday, July 07, 2006

Another Milestone

I found myself pondering the past year of my life for the past few days. And the more I reflected and analysed, the more I'm convinced and realised that nothing much has changed over the 12 months: certainly not on the professional aspect and definitely not on the personal front; any improvement, if any, on the spiritual/religious side is more likely to be marginal [in fact there may even have been deterioration in this area]; physical/fitness aspect seems stagnant too, the hours I work don't really allow for as many evening walks as I would have liked - granted, I don't work as long and hard as a few of my colleagues do - plus walks are dependent on the weather and I can be sooo undisciplined, and if anything I seem to lose weight quicker than I could pile back on.

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It was my birthday yesterday. My mood swang from one extreme to the other a few days preceding it for reasons I couldn't fathom myself [maybe it has something to do with my life analysis]. Perhaps it was the realisation that I have nothing to show as achievement since the last birthday. Perhaps I didn't want to be reminded that another year had passed. Perhaps as I journey on down this road of life, I don't find it as exciting to be reminded of how little I have achieved despite gaining another year. My mood culminated in one of its worst swings ever yesterday and I was a mixed bag of Emotions. I wanted to hurl abuses at people who placed angry enquiring calls to our place, I had to stop myself from snapping at my staff, I wished I could stop those work emails from flooding my inbox, I longed to just be anywhere but the office and I just couldn't wait for the journey back to my pad - which wasn't Smooth since we left rather late.

But I was grateful to those who helped cheered my birthday with their birthday wishes and text messages: my friend & her family in Notts, my cuz in London, my sister, my old friends - one even wished me 2 days earlier and though I wasn't Born On The Fourth of July, I really appreciate the thought - who despite their hectic schedule as busy career women and juggling their responsibilities as mother, wife and daughter still found time to wish me. The wishes came from midnight and lasted well into last night . Thanks for the birthday presents too and the prayers for me.


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When I was still a child, there were times when I wondered if I was a wanted child, if I was adopted, and even if I was somehow accidentally switched by the nurses in the nursery and my parents are not actually my biological parents [yes, I've had such wild imaginations even at a tender age!]. These doubts usually crossed my mind whenever I had to endure those long, painful earfuls from either (or both) of my parents and when I didn't get along with my older siblings [when they seemed to form an alliance even with Akak and excluded me]. And I even wondered if my parents favoured Akak over me.

But over the years, I have come to realise that they love us all unconditionally. Despite our faults, stubbornness (I'm especially guilty for this), flaws, mistakes, rebellion etc. And I am now secure in the knowledge that they love me too. And while they seldom express it verbally, they show it in their many gestures of love and care. Even when they give me a long talk and ask me many many questions before I step out during the weekends, it's because they love and care and care for me, and they show it in the best way they know how.

My parents spent a day of sweating, puffing and panting some two weeks earlier when they helped me to ward off the evil cats by buying the netting before tying and securing it at the balcony [and stretching themselves tired in doing so].

Yesterday, they came over to my pad while I was at work unsuspecting and unaware of their visit. They brought over brand new curtains for my sliding door and painted my grilled door. And they even left me some food so I didn't have to cook any meals when I Finally staggered home later yesterday, feeling most knackered and shattered. And they even brought over rambutans from our tree, two bagfuls that I brought some to the office today [the tree must be bearing well this year, syukur]. When they got home, they called me to wish me Happy Birthday.

Now, if those weren't acts of love, I don't know what one is.

Thank You Abah & Mummy. Thank You for everything you've done for me, for raising me up, giving me education and Always supporting me. Without expecting anything in return Because You Love Me unconditionally and unselfishly and I know that now. Despite me being difficult, a Rebel Without A Cause in my adolescent years, stubborn and testing at times.

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I am just so blessed with family and friends. Thank You, God.

Thursday, July 06, 2006

Road to Berlin - Part II

Woke up this morning to watch the France-Portugal match. As I've mentioned before, I'm not rooting for France but wanted them to beat Brazil previously and now Portugal.

The Portugal players, notorious for their diving, was disappointing with Ronaldo being booed everytime he made contact with the ball but the French were no better. They were a shadow of the team that beat Brazil. Well, perhaps reserving their energy for the Final Match. I was clapping my hands in delight when Zizou struck in the penalty and yelled at Ricardo, 'Ha! You're not that good after all, are you!', no matter that he couldn't hear me.

Anyway, Merci Beaucoup Les Blues for kicking out Portugal. And it will be a Blue affair on Sunday indeed when Les Blues play Azzurri.

And may the Germans beat Portugal on Saturday.

Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Road to Berlin - Part I

Unlike my previous early morning footie vigils, I woke up an hour earlier this morning to watch the Germany-Italy match. I was rooting for both teams previously and couldn't really decide which one to support but favoured Italy slightly more.

The first half was gripping, with lots of attacking by the Italians (yes, the Italians who are famed for their defensive strength) and superb defending by the Germans. Dortmund is a strong fort for the Germans - they had never lost there before. Well, until last night that is.

Azzurri fell into their defensive mode in the second half. No goals scored either by the 90th minute. Ballack had a chance with a free kick but aimed for the stars instead and the game went into extra time. Bet the Germans were going Bullocks Ballack!

Was thinking it would be decided by penalty shoots - and Germany has a brilliant record for penalty shoot-outs and Italy knew this - when defender (!) Grosso curled a Pirlo pass past Lehmann with a minute left in extra time. Talk about leaving it to the eleventh hour! Barely enough time for the Germans to fashion a counter attack. I leapt out of the sofa and did a wild dance in front of the tube.

Then Juventus golden boy Del Piero slot in another beautiful goal to punish the host nation further. Another wild dance ensued.

The seemingly impenetrable Dortmund wall has finally cracked. And the Germans were sent home. In their own home.

Captain Cannavaro was exceptional throughout, marshalling the defence and ensured The Italian Job is done well (and a truly classical heartbreaking one too) and Azzurri maintained their 12-year cycle of the World Cup Final Match appearances.

VIVA ITALIA!!!

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I was in Italy the last time Azzurri was in the World Cup Final Match against Brazil. Didn't particularly fancy the Italians then and as such, didn't support them [not that I supported Brazil in that match]. I remember being in an Italian pub of some sort trying to catch a glimpse of the match in between the taller Italians around me. And quietly not supporting Italy ['cause if I did it openly, they'd gladly kick me out of there!].

And now, 12 years later, I am actually rooting for Italy (among others).

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Overheard on my way to work yesterday, a woman commenting loudly while gesturing at the previous day's daily that this World Cup was fixed, that everyone [who's everyone?!] was not satisfied with all the upset results, that it's inconceivable that Brazil got sent home 'cause they're number 1, that France must have done something to earn that win. She was obviously a Brazilian fan. Immediately this thought flashed through my mind: Oh lady. Get real. Even the Czechs got sent home early, and they're number 2. That's what football is. The ball is round. Your puking moralising makes me sick. [This last line should be familiar to my old mates].

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VIVA ITALIA!!!

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Shanghai Noon

As promised, the following is my account of my recent trip - to the metropolitan city of Shanghai.

Mummy was already waiting for me when I returned to my pad after work on Thursday. Yes, another journey with Mummy, Just The Two Of Us, as Abah was advised by the doctor not to come along. We left after dinner and prayers for KL Sentral for the train to KLIA. No hurry as our flight to Shanghai aka the Paris of the East would only take off at 1.40 am. Managed to catch precious sleep, hardly enough but better than nothing at all.

23 June 2006: Landed at Shanghai Pudong Airport at 7 am. Already very bright but the view was marred by the smog enveloping the city [this would remain for the next couple of days]. After clearing immigration and collecting our luggage, our little group of 17 people and a tour leader met up with our local tour guide, Martin. A brief introduction and an exchange of the usual pleasantries followed before we were whisked away to the city, stopping en route at a restaurant for breakfast. Pudong Airport maybe only 40 km away from the city but the building traffic made it seemed so much further.

Arrived at our hotel at 9 sth and after getting our room keys, we went to our respective rooms for a much-needed rest. We then gathered at the lobby at 1130 for lunch. A little early, you say, but as it took a considerable amount of time traversing from one part of the city to another, it was well after 12 noon when we reached the restaurant. The weather hadn’t improved and if anything seemed to have deteriorated even more.

As it was a Muslim tour, we were then brought to a mosque for prayers. It was quite packed and only then did we realise that it was Friday. There was the usual Friday sermon of course in Mandarin (but of course).

Our following destination was the Oriental Pearl TV Tower. Piercing the Pudong skyline at 468 metres, it is the tallest TV tower in Asia. We rode up the elevator to the tower’s observation deck on the first upper level, at a height of 250-295 metres and a diameter of 45 metres, to enjoy the 360-degree view of the surroundings. For claustrophobics, don’t worry: the elevator ride took only 50 seconds! Alas, the weather wasn’t too accommodating and the light drizzle didn’t help any.

Next, we went to a building housing a traditional medicine shop (for lack of a better name). We were given a foot bath followed by foot massage, not unlike the one I had in Beijing last year, except that the Beijing experience didn’t include a foot bath. Then some traditional medical practitioners came along to diagnose us, by fingering our wrists and palms and studying our eyes. Sounds too simple to be true, eh. Mummy and I weren’t about to be fleeced like any other unsuspecting tourist and didn’t buy anything despite much persuasion and coaxing.

Dinner followed soon after and following that, some of us went for the optional tour of a cruise along Huangpu River while the others went back to the hotel for their own activities. It was a pleasant ride despite the blurry night-lights emanating from the buildings crowding along the river. Thankfully, the night wind wasn’t strong enough to chill us to our bones and the crowd not noisy enough to be annoying. We reached the hotel before 10 pm.

24 June 2006: Another hazy morning. After what I suppose was a typical Chinese breakfast, we set off for Nanjing Road, reputedly China’s most famous shopping street. There is a 1 km stretch of pedestrian only boulevard and as it was a Saturday, it was fast becoming packed as the morning progressed. We were allocated about 1.5 hours here, a bit unreasonable seeing that there barely any shops were opened when we got there and when the shops Finally opened their doors for official trading, we barely had time to shop, choose, decide and make our purchase before making our way back to our coach.

After lunch and prayers, we left Shanghai for Suzhou, a city in Jiangsu Province. Suzhou is a garden city and has been called ‘A City of Gardens’ [Marco Polo was alleged to have called Suzhou ‘Oriental Venice’] and also the Paradise of China. It boasts more than 2500 years of history and with 13 rivers criss-crossing it, it is hardly surprising that there is a strong ‘river influence’ among its residents – who in ancient times, mainly lived along the rivers and whose livelihood and daily activities depended on and revolved around the rivers.

We were met by our local Suzhou guide, William. He first brought us over to a mosque in the city centre then across a river to the ancient Suzhou district. The Government had decreed that the buildings in this area must not exceed six floors and each building must have white walls and black roofs. The roads in this district were narrower than those in the modern district. We stopped at the Humble Administrator’s Garden aka the Lion Grove Garden. The 700-year old garden was built by a monk and now owned by the Government. There were some rock formations resembling lions [you need to squint hard and convince yourself so at some formations though!] and a charming garden. Unfortunately, it started raining before we could wander off into the garden, as if proving William’s point earlier that Suzhou receives 200 days of rain annually. After getting wet in Europe, I was prepared with my umbrella. We then went for dinner before checking in at Green Tree Hotel.

25 June 2006: After breakfast and hotel check-out, we went to the Suzhou Kaidi Silk Factory. See, besides being a place for gardens and canals, Suzhou is now a centre for silk trade. The factory was located very near to the Tiger Hill Pagoda (Yunyan Ta) aka the Leaning Tower Pagoda (because it leans to the north). William had even started telling us of the silk products on the way and when we arrived there, he wasted no time giving us a tour of the factory. The main products are silk quilts (perfect for those hot summer nights) and silk pillows and of course silk clothes. We spent quite some time there parting with our RMB.

Satisfied with our purchase, we then headed for lunch. William bade farewell to us after lunch [and looking pleased with his successful advertising efforts] and we soon found ourselves on another Expressway, this time heading for Nanjing.

We reached Nanjing some 2 hours or so later and met up with our local guide, David, a cute youthful-looking guy who talked with much confidence and eye contact. And while he was no Beckham, he was still quite an eye candy! Yes, I have a cosmopolitan taste in guys, uninhibited by skin colour, ethnicity, culture, background… anyway, I digress. Now, Nanjing means southern capital [Beijing being the northern capital] and was the capital of several dynasties. It was the capital of the Republic of China [note, not the People’s Republic of China] from their 1911 revolution, led by Dr Sun Yat Sen who then became the President, until defeat by the communists in 1949. Now the capital city of Jiangsu Province, it is also known as Stone City - thanks to the city wall circling around the city which at one point in time was the longest city wall in the world - and also the Gold City. With its 382 colleges and universities, Nanjing is now quite an educational centre.

After a brief stop at the local mosque, we went to the Yangtze River Bridge. Work on this 80-metre high bridge started in 1960 and finished in 1968. It was originally started by the Soviet before they left suddenly with the blueprint and technology. The Chinese had no choice but to continue the work themselves and as a result, the bridge was the first ever to be built by the Chinese on their own. And mind you, China [and most developing countries too] didn't have modern machinery and technology then and very little money too - in fact David added that some workers may not have been paid at all. So it was built with much toil, sweat, passion and pride. You can just sense the pride that they still have over the bridge - from its troubled initial beginning to its construction and finally completion - and they should well be proud.


The bridge links the north and south parts of Nanjing [which are separated by the mighty Yangtze] and has four towers and two tiers - the train track at the lower level which runs for 6700 metres across and the road at the upper level which is 4500 metres long. We spent some time here going up to one of the towers and admiring the view of the river and the surroundings. There was a crystal store conveniently located at the first floor [that’s ground floor for us familiar with the British system] and that meant more time was spent waiting for those eager to part with more of their RMB. Dinner was next and after that, we travelled across the city to Wong Jiang Lou Hotel. Our tour leader, Alfred, had been taken ill with fever by this time too. Oh dear.

26 June 2006: Another date, I mean, day, with David today. After breakfast and checking out, we went to the Purple Mountain, where Dr Sun Yat Sen’s mausoleum is. There were over four hundred steps going up to his resting place and I went up to have a look. It was a hot, humid climb but it was nowhere as strenuous as the struggle up the Great Wall. Being a tourist spot, there were small shops at the bottom [and you know what that means]. I wanted to buy some silk stuff but was put off by the unyielding salesperson who refused to give me a miserable RMB2 discount. Sheesh, it’s not as if RMB2 would make you any richer or any less poorer!

We next visited the Nanjing Museum where apparently a sizeable collection of jade materials was housed. And of course, there was the jade store located within the museum so there was another round of bargaining by us tourists. Lunch which followed was a welcome relief and then all too soon, it was time to bid farewell to Nanjing and cute David (*sigh*). We travelled along yet another Expressway towards Wuxi.

We reached Wuxi some two hours later [with a restroom break in the middle of the journey] and met up with James, the local tour guide. Wuxi is located at the edge of Tai Hu Lake, the largest fresh water lake in China [in fact, the lake is even bigger than either Hong Kong or Singapore!]. Blessed with tin/pewter as its natural resources, it is now a middle-sized city with a population of only 1.5 million in the city and another 5 million in the suburbs. We paid a visit to the local mosque, which with six floors was the tallest mosque we’d been to thus far. I found visiting Chinese mosques amazing, fascinating and humbling at the same time. It’s just fantastic to meet other Muslims; while we sure don’t speak the same language, we still pray to the same God. Dinner followed soon after, at a restaurant just across the street from the mosque. We then travelled to another part of the city to check in at Green Land Hotel. We checked in quite early [at 7 pm] and there was considerable time to kill before the World Cup match later that evening so after freshening up, I ventured out alone to the area within the hotel vicinity. After a while, I saw the familiar red, white and blue logo of Carrefour. Ah, civilisation! I made my way there and soon found myself browsing along the aisles of the supermarket, rubbing shoulders with the local people. I then bumped into two girls from the non-Muslim tour and we walked back together to the hotel.

27 June 2006: After the usual breakfast-and-check-out affair, we travelled to the Tai Hu Lake and spent some time admiring the view and capturing the Kodak moments. James explained that Tai Hu Lake is acidic in nature and that the rocks we saw at the Lion Grove Garden back in Suzhou were from the bottom of Tai Hu. Besides silver fish, crabs and dragon shrimps, the lake is home to oysters bred for pearls. Apparently 87% of fresh water pearls come from Tai Hu and... no prizes for guessing what was next. Yes, a visit to a pearl centre, the Ju-baoyuan Pearl Designing Centre to be exact. I wasn’t at all interested to add to my collection of three strands of pearl purchased in Bangsar and the Mikimoto single pearl necklace which my brother bought many years ago (though I wouldn’t turn down an offer of a gift of either a South Sea pearl or the ridiculously expensive golden pearl necklace). I was pretty convinced that you could get them pearl necklaces and bracelets cheaper elsewhere but wasn’t about to stop fellow tourmates from contributing to the local economy [although they sure did take their sweet time doing so].

After all that pearl purchase, we went to a teapot place [not sure if it was a museum although it did look like one and has extensive teapot collection to be labelled as one]. It’s amazing how good the Chinese are at advertising or promoting their local cottage industry. We were given an explanation on the various teapots and materials used in making them [yes, a lesson in teapot indeed and mind you, they refer to the teapot ‘specialists’ as Masters!]. I was surprised to learn that the material used is a type of rock found in the mountains near Wuxi.

Lunch was next and then it was time to leave Wuxi for Hangzhou, the provincial capital of Zhejiang. Another trip along the Expressway and when we pulled over for our restroom break, I was amazed to discover that the wide expanse of body of water along the Expressway was not the East China Sea but rather a part of the immense Tai Hu Lake!

We pulled into Hangzhou some 2.5 hours after leaving Wuxi. Called the Paradise on Earth, Hangzhou is famous for its West Lake, beautiful gardens and ethereal hills. I was even more pleased to discover that in addition to its natural wonders, it was also quite a modern metropolis with its own Prada, Gucci and Ferragamo stores! Definitely my kind of city! As the local tour guide couldn’t meet us until the following morning, Martin helped to explain a bit about the city as we made our way to the local mosque. Dinner was at a nearby restaurant and after that, we rushed to the Song Dynasty World for an hour-long performance of The Romance of the Song Dynasty. The theatre was filled to its capacity by tourists from various countries [apparently Hangzhou is a famous destination] and the good performance evidently played some part in boosting tourist arrival. After the performance, we were given a brief free time to wander around before making our way to Xiangji Holiday Hotel, located at the other side of Hangzhou city.

28 June 2006: After a very early breakfast and checking out, we met our local guide, Jean – our one and only female guide on this trip. We travelled across to the western fringe of the city to the famous West Lake. After the usual round of capturing those Kodak moments of the lake and the Leifing Pagoda in the Setting Sun/Evening Glow [I know, what a mouthful] located at the southeastern shore of the lake, we boarded a boat for a ride around the lake. Jean pointed out three gourd-shaped pagodas called the Three Pools Reflecting the Moon. Each hollow pagoda has five holes and when candles are lit inside the pagodas on moonlit nights, their reflections and that of the moon form an enchanting, romantic view. If I’m not mistaken, Jean also said that these three pagodas protruding out of the lake could be seen on the RMB1 note. The lake water lapping gently against the boat with the occasional light wind pretty soon almost lulled me to sleep.

We got down the boat on another shore of the lake and boarded the coach for Mei Jia Wu Village up in the hills where the Longjing (Dragon Well) tea fields are. Apparently, Longjing tea is the most famous green tea in China. There are a few grades, the best being those tea leaves picked during the harvest period in end-April. Don’t be surprised to discover that prices for the very best are as sky-high as the Oriental Pearl TV Tower. We went around the complex, listened to a talk on tea by a tea expert [she just graduated from university, majoring in tea! And no, I’m not kidding] and sampled a glass of the organically-grown tea. I bought some myself.

The complex also housed an area selling a myriad of things, from silk carpets to silk clothes and materials, green tea-based products and tea pillows, small souvenir trinkets, postcards and books on various topics. We spent some time here before boarding the coach for lunch.

After lunch, we bade farewell to Jean and took the Expressway back to Shanghai, stopping en route at Xitang Water Village. It was a small village centred around a canal and we walked around and along the canal for a closer look at a traditional Chinese village life. We spent barely an hour here before re-boarding the coach back for Shanghai.

We reached Shanghai at about 4 pm and went to this impressive centre which housed an impressive collection of jade, pearl and various crystal accessories, gigantic cloissone vases and paintings. The accessories looked far better than those we saw earlier in Nanjing and Wuxi too. Too bad we had made our purchases previously and really, one can’t be wearing two jade bangles on her left wrist, right?


After spending enough time at the centre (and causing the employees to leave work later than they normally do), we went to a Shopping area in the city centre. The Xiangyang Road Market which offered fake, imitation products had been closed down on 1 June 2006 by the Government [not that I was interested in fake goods anyway]. Despite the dozens of shops, Mummy and I just couldn’t find anything that caught our fancy.

We had a rather hurried, late dinner [as the restaurant was closing for the day even though 9 pm was hardly late for us visitors] before checking into our hotel where we spent our earlier night in Shanghai.

Initially, we were supposed to check out at 10 am the next morning and make our way to the airport, stopping en route for lunch. ‘Traffic jam’, Martin cited as the reason for this unreasonably early departure and the driver wasn’t keen to be stuck in the jam. [We thought the driver was a little impatient most of the time and like almost every other Chinese driver, enjoyed honking his horn at every possible opportunity]. After dinner, Martin however said he managed to convince the driver to bring us to Nanjing Road the next morning for a last-minute Shopping in Shanghai, but not before everyone agreed to pay RMB20 each. Everyone unanimously agreed to pay and it was settled.

29 June 2006: Last day in Shanghai. Woken up at a ridiculous hour by Mummy who wanted to join some other ladies to go marketing [and by that, I really mean visiting the market for groceries]. Seriously not something that would have me leaping out of bed in joy but I decided to indulge her although I did sulk a bit. Travelling with Mummy means a rare, 24-7 time Alone with her and let’s just say that it can be challenging at times. Like when she woke me up at 6 sth am in the morning to ask me to go to the market with her; never mind that it was already bright outside, it was only just 6 in the morning!!!

After breakfast, we walked around the corner up the street and barely five minutes (and a few exchanges of halting English with the locals to determine the direction) later, we found the market. Everything looked so fresh: the fruits, vegetables, fish, even the mini lobsters were still crawling about!

After the grocery purchase, we headed back to the hotel and just after 8.40, left the hotel for Nanjing Road. We reached Nanjing Road at 9.10 am and were given only one ridiculous hour to shop, and while normally it could have been possible to squeeze in some purchases in that length of time, it was hard to do so when the majority of shops open at 10! It was a good thing that Mummy and I had sighted this pair of lovely pillowcases on offer on our visit five days earlier and had earmarked them for purchase.

Back to the coach and went for an early lunch. Another hurried meal and soon after, we were cruising the road heading for the airport. Turned out we arrived too early at 1220 [as we tried to point out to Martin] and ended up having to wait before our luggage could be checked in and our boarding passes issued. And then it was time to bid farewell to Martin and Shanghai…

The plane took off at a quarter to 4 pm and we landed at KLIA at 8.45 pm.

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Some trivia on Shanghai:

It’s a fascinating mix of East and West and the most Westernised city in China [I found that out from a Robert Ludlum novel]. It is spilt by the Huangpu River into Puxi, the older town on the west bank, and Pudong, once a rural area and now the skyscraper-laden financial district of Shanghai.

There are five districts in Pudong New Area. Historic shikumen houses rubbed shoulders with modern apartment and office buildings.

Its rapid development has led the megalopolis to be ranked as one of the most polluted cities in the world [as evidenced by the smog and haze that greeted our arrival and lingered until we left for Suzhou].

And yet, it’s still a captivating city, no less. It’s possible that I’ll return. One fine day, who knows? And this time, I’ll make sure that I take a leisurely stroll along the Bund and admire the diverse mix of Gothic, Roman and Baroque architecture, and visit the gardens. And allocate more time for Shopping.

Monday, July 03, 2006

The Quarter-Finals Weekend

As I had to rely on public transportation to get back to HQ after work on Friday, I figured I might as well made a pitstop at KLCC and go home after 8 pm when the traffic was hopefully better. Quite a few Arab tourists have arrived, in fact they seem to arrive all year round now instead of the normal July-August months when it gets too hot in their home countries. Not that I mind them. I love rich, wealthy tourists who can contribute to our local economy, instead of those bus-loads of people from some developing country who just come and gawk at the displays and delights that KLCC has to offer and end up buying nothing. I managed to find some bargains just before leaving well after 8 pm. To my dismay, the roads were still clogged all the way back, what with it being a Friday evening and end of month [i.e. pay day].

I didn't watch the Germany-Argentina match and hence missed witnessing the Germans giving the Argies the boot. What can I say save for Don't Cry For Me Argentina and Vielen Dank and bravo to Herr Lehmann for saving the day for the host nation? Woke up early Saturday morning for the Italy-Ukraine clash and was rewarded by a beautiful display of Azzurri attacking which translated into three goals. Anyone who has been following Azzurri play will know that Italy tends to play it safe Under Pressure and falls into their defensive strategy of catenaccio [remember their performance in a few previous World Cups and Euro tourneys?]. With this cat-and-mouse strategy, Azzurri will make their swift counterattack pounce when their opponents make a mistake. On this note, I should mention that I almost had a minor cardiac arrest when watching Azzurri play against Australia previously. Down to 10 men, they stubbornly held on until they were awarded that eleventh hour penalty. I almost couldn't bring myself to watch Totti make that kick and when he slotted it home, I was jumping up and down the hotel bed in joy. So it's Germany meeting Italy next.

Went back to my current pad on Saturday afternoon with Mummy and Abah. They had earlier tied a netting at the balcony to prevent the evil cats from coming to do their business there but we needed to secure the netting with wires so the afternoon was spent doing exactly that and a nasty job of washing the balcony followed to rid of the remaining cat poo and stench. I had to fight waves of nausea hitting me and gagged more times than I care to recall [anyone within earshot would probably think I was having pregnancy-related sickness]. And as the outlet for rain water collecting on the balcony drips down the awning and on to the porch below, well, I had no choice of course but to clean the porch afterwards. Dang! No, don't hold them back, do Shed A Tear and more on my behalf. The usual housecleaning chore followed and it was almost 8 pm when I was Finally done, leaving me feeling totally exhausted. Knackered. Shattered. Frazzled.

I somehow still managed to summon energy to watch England play Portugal later that night. It was such a mentally exhausting and metabolically draining match to watch. Loony Rooney got sent off and Lampard kept kicking the ball as if he was aiming for an imaginary, invisible lamp(ard) post instead of the gaping goal ahead. Maybe in his anxiety in front of the goal, he forgot that it was the FIFA World Cup and not the Rugby World Cup. Had it been the latter, he would definitely have scored many goals for England with his aim-for-the-sky kicks. Apart from these silly English players whose performance, especially for Lampard who had been dismal this World Cup, the rest of the team played remarkably well and displayed a rare performance of great defending to hang on desperately 'til extra time and penalty shoot out. But Portugal has a good goalie and England has a poor record of penalty shoots. And the rest as we know is heartbreak for the England team and fans. It's a cruel twist of fate that England Lost when they were playing well and won their earlier matches when they were playing quite badly and defending poorly.

Personally, I thought England could have done better and advanced further, yes, despite the many criticisms and comments thrown at them. I mean, as good as the Czechs, Mexicans, Spanish, Swedes, Dutch etc had been, they didn't manage to reach quarter-finals, did they? And Portugal didn't exactly play that well, did they, if they had to stretch the game well into extra time and had the result determined by penalty? I was shouting and screaming at silly Lampard for missing the penalty, knowing fully well that it was wayyy past 1 am - I think I even woke my neighbours up but hey, this doesn't happen often. Only once in every four years!

After a brief shuteye, I woke up for the second half of the France-Brazil clash. Zizou was such a fantastic player and Les Blues is indeed Lucky to have him. I don't much care for France and didn't support them in either the last World Cup or Euro 2004 but I Sure didn't want Brazil to win. My vigil didn't go to waste as Henry slotted in a beautiful goal from a Zizou free kick. Down with Brazil! [I wish Ghana had put them out of the race earlier but we have to wait for future World Cups before any African or Asian teams Shine.] And it will be an all-European semi-finals, not unlike the Euro tourneys! Woo hoo! I much prefer European football to some Latin American samba footie. Heck if I had put my money down in favour of Les Blues earlier, I'd be able to earn a big, fat profit. But that would be akin to gambling, wouldn't it? Anyway, I Sure hope France will overcome Portugal when they meet in a couple of days

Woke up slightly later yesterday [9 am was a considerably early feat considering the hours I sacrificed staying up for footie!]. After airing my quilt, mattress protector and pillows, I went out to BB where I had a lovely time in Starhill, going in and out of boutiques - I even went into overpriced Louis Vuitton - and managed to bag a Ferragamo for Mummy at a deal [the KLCC outlet offered only 60% and I got the bag at Starhill outlet at 70%!. Been meaning to buy one for her but didn't quite manage to in Europe] - before going over to Lot 10 and to Times Square. It was an overcast but humid day and I wanted to return early but it was not to be for I had to spend a flipping 45 minutes before the blinking bus came. Spent an hour ironing clothes; it was a sweaty session alright, just like I was in a sauna! I was really knackered by the time I was done and was grateful for my solitude and privacy.

Drifted off to sleep a bit later than normal and was thankful for the Rain that Finally came down at the stroke of midnight. Thank You, God.