Someone recently emailed me the following:
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There was a study done where a control group of 100 people were divided into two.
50 people watched a very funny, tears-of-laughter type movie.
50 watched a very sad and tears of compassion type movie.
At the end of the sessions researchers collected the ‘happy tears’ and the ‘sad tears’ with eye droppers.
They found that ‘happy tears’ are made up of brine... salt water and not a great deal else.
However the ‘sad tears’ were found to contain the very same chemicals and enzymes that are found tumours, ulcers and other such lumps and bumps and sicknesses through out the body.
This test concluded that the body, when crying in sadness etc is literally flushing out all of the toxic-chemicals that accumulate and are a part of the sadness /heartache experience.
Therefore if one holds back those tears, those toxic-waters will find somewhere else to deposit themselves.
And prolonged lack-of-crying-release will guarantee that the body will accumulate a huge amount of internal pollution and toxicity that should have been released through the tears...
Is it any wonder that the eyes sting so much when we hold back our tears?
LESSON FROM THE STUDY: CRY YOUR HEART OUT WHEN YOU ARE SAD, LONELY, ALONE, DEPRESSED, ETC.
IT IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH!
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I'm not sure how far true the above is but I don't believe in bottling my feelings inside. And, mind you, crying is not a sign of weakness because as Madonna sings it, It takes more strength to cry, admit defeat... I find myself crying every now and then but often of late. Yesterday, as I was preparing dinner, I turned on the radio and then one song came up. And as I listened to the lyrics, I just broke down and cried and sobbed my heart out. I have done so much wrong. I hope God will forgive me. I guess it’s true what they say about hurting the one you love the most. Oh, Why, Why, Why does love hurt so bad?
But surely, love is all about forgiveness too? And the tagline to Love Story is the following famous quote: 'Love means never having to say you're sorry.'
I found the following from the Net:
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Love is a good thing, and it sure hurts, because those involved are human beings and have their own weaknesses, and as long as they have their own distinct personalities, they'll always hurt each other. They may not always mean to, but there'll always be clashes along the way, and that's how you test love. If after all that, you both rise back up and stay strong, you know your love will stand the test of time. Imagine the greatest love of all, God's love for us, yet, knowing all He's done for us, we still go ahead and hurt Him, not like we want to, but we're who we are! We're just wired that way, but despite it all, He loves us.
Also Love unveils our vulnerability because it comes with feelings you tend to forget that slowly you are peeling off every layer. It’s not something you can do to yourself because loving yourself is different than someone loving you.
And so it’s easier to just involuntarily hit back, to fail or do anything that reminds you that you are not really worth this attention because we have all at least once in our lifetime been hurt. We just build extra layers so as not to be vulnerable. Or like someone said we take each other for granted. Love is a walk you have to do it everyday and sometimes you just (like when you riding a horse) ease up on the ropes.
Love will hurt, because for it to be Love, it has to get close enough for you to feel it. The fact that it hurts doesn't mean it’s not 100% positive.
But the most important thing is that Love always hopes.
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How true. How very true. Please forgive me for all the pain, hurt and anguish I caused you.
You always hurt the one you love
The one you shouldn't hurt at all
You always take the sweetest rose
And crush it till the petals fall
You always break the kindest heart
With a hasty word you can't recall
So if I broke your heart last night
It's because I love you most of all
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